My name is Prateek. I like music. I talk about my life as a "hipster" Canadian Indian (as well as naturalized U.S. citizen). Enjoy.
Saturday, July 12th, was the end of an era. A house that was at most a five-minute drive from my apartment was the place to go for punk/indie/DIY shows. It was a normal one-story house in a college neighborhood. This house (in my opinion) was the source of the Raleigh music scene. Bands from all over North Carolina (and out of state) would converge into this simple house and provide such culture to our community that normal music venues would seem pretty boring. This house was well known as The Mattress Fort.
This past Saturday was the last show ever at The Mattress Fort and it was definitely the most emotional night for those who came to witness this event. Tears were shed and memories were shared. I know that I’ve had my fair share of awesome moments there. My first time there I participated in the video shoot of Museum Mouth’s “Sexy But Not Happy”…… and got day-drunk from the first time. I got to see Tiny Moving Parts for the first time there (which was probably in my top five favorite shows in there). We all had great experiences there, whether you were playing a show or you were singing along in the crowd. We were a part of this culture that the Raleigh music scene needed and deserved. This house has been the beginning for many bands and from there they have grown bigger, gaining larger audiences. If not for The Mattress Fort, I probably wouldn’t have gotten into half the bands I listen to today. I definitely wouldn’t have had met some of the greatest people ever. The two last shows were on Friday and Saturday, July 11th and 12th of 2014, and they are definitely gonna be the most memorable days I will have in my life. Long live The Mattress Fort. The end.
So recently I’ve heard about that the Vans Warped Tour has banned moshing and crowdsurfing, to which I thought, “no one is going to follow that rule,” knowing how many metal and hardcore bands play at these shows. But as it turns out, I watched a video of my favorite hardcore band, Every Time I Die, playing at this year’s Warped Tour and people were just standing and just banging there heads………unacceptable! Now the reasoning behind the “no moshing” rule is a very simple one: they don’t want to get sued, which is understandable if the bands encourage it. But people who have gone to hardcore shows know that there is going to be moshing involved, even if they themselves don’t want to mosh. Now even though moshing is a very violent looking way of enjoying a band, there are unspoken rules which I shall speak about.
1. If you don’t want to mosh, stay out of the pit.
Moshing is something someone chooses to do for the most part at appropriate shows (I say “appropriate” because moshing to John Mayer sounds and probably looks ridiculous). Some bands will encourage it and that’s how they get sued if someone gets hurt. So if you don’t want to be in the mosh pit, then move out of the pit before it starts. If you want to mosh but are new to it and are hesitant about going in, find a friend to team up with you and help you integrate into the moshing culture.
2. If someone falls, you help them up.
People are going to fall down and maybe get hurt. I know I have been pretty banged up from moshing and crowdsurfing. So if someone falls, you help them up and make sure that they are okay. If they aren’t okay take them out of the mosh pit and help them out any way you can or find someone who can help them. And if you can, follow through with them and make sure they are still okay. It’s just common decency.
3. If someone is trying to go through the pit without getting swept up in the action, you let them pass before you continue moshing.
There is always going to be someone who has to go through a mosh pit in order to get to the other side of the venue. Usually they will try to find an opening and get through, but if they can’t, help them get through so you can quickly get back to moshing.
4. If someone is hurting people on purpose or getting into fights, stop them and/or kick them out.
No one wants to be around people that are going to be physically harmful to you or anyone else. So you can take matters into your own hands and pull them out or get security to do that for you. Security will probably know how to handle those situations better. And if you do get hurt from a violent person, that is your person to sue if you’re going to sue anyone.
So…… those are the unspoken rules of moshing. Now you may never want to mosh and that is fine too. People have their own way to enjoy shows. But we as decent human beings need to make everyone feel comfortable and have a pleasant show-going experience (however you want to go about doing that). Just be respectful towards one another and you are bound to not get sued.
Hello there, friends and strangers (who ultimately end up being friends). Yes, I know I’m drunk. Yes, I know it is past midnight and I should be going to sleep because I have a class in the morning, but I keep reevaluating my life as usual and I must share my thoughts, as unimportant as they may seem. I have been thinking that I should be more of an asshole. It has been really hard to be optimistic towards everything nowadays and I think the only way of dealing with it is just having a “fuck you everybody” kind of attitude. The problem is I am terrible at it. I am terrible at not being vulnerable. I can’t pull that off. I just like being able to put all my cards on the table and gamble with my life. I just suck at gambling though. I don’t think I should go to Las Vegas. Ever. I just wanna bluff my way through everything and get the prize, but I always seem to have a tell…..That’s all for now. I’m going to bed…. more on this tomorrow when I’m sober and realize how stupid I sound when I read this. G’night!
Hello….. I don’t know who I’m talking to… I guess I’m talking to whoever feels like reading whatever bullshit comes out of my mouth. I feel like part of me hasn’t changed since high school and I’m just writing whatever hoping to get the attention of someone whom I hope will write to me and ask me how I have been…… I don’t think that’s normal for someone who is 23 years old and still trying to get my degree. I’ve done the whole “stay away from Facebook” for a few months in late-2012 and when I came back it was the same as when I left. I think it would be hard for me to function in total isolation….. I depend on people way too much. I just like the company of people. Especially when it is with people that I have a great relationship with. I mean that is everyone, but I feel that it is more so with me. I guess what I am trying to say is…… How are you doing?